5 Skills never taught in schools | Personality and Self Development
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Are you wondering why are we in school today? Well that’s because I saw you bunking some important lessons in school, yes and those lessons will be learned today. I know you were doing all naughty things that time and that made you bunk some important lesson, I know. Okay don’t over think guys, I think we should do some drama sometimes. So we all know that school is the place where we gain the major chunk of our education, but sadly there are certain essential skills that are not taught at schools and in this session today I’ve got for you five essential skills like empathy, conflict resolving skills, asking questions, negotiating, body language and listening skills that we were not taught in our schools by our teachers. But these skills are extremely important for the real world and by real world I mean the practical world where you need practical skills.
For example, skills to operate at your workplace, at your college or with your network of friends and colleagues. So, as you already know Skillopedia, the place to learn skills for the real world and let’s get started. So here is a cheat sheet to the five essential skills that your school missed teaching you and how you can cultivate these skills now.
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1. First skill “Empathy” :-
Why don’t you try and guess the name of the skill? Okay, here you go, “She is always sitting in the corner, that’s why no one likes her, even I don’t like her and I don’t know why she always sad, I won’t go and talk to her.” Aha! This was harsh. Could you guess, which is this skill that our school hasn’t taught us? Well this child did not show any empathy towards her classmate. But what is empathy?
So, empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another person. Basically it means to put yourself in someone’s shoe, whether it fits you or not, but try to feel what they are feeling. So, this is one skill that we are not taught in our school. Now the question is, how to show empathy towards someone and how to use it as a tool for building relationships?
So, step one is, ‘to be present for the person and hear their side of the story’.
Step two is ‘when you hear someone’s story, see it from their point of view, do not judge what’s right or what’s wrong’. Just listen to their emotions.
Step third ‘ask questions to understand them better, give encouragement and offer to help if possible’.
2. Conflict resolving skills :-
Now the second skill you to guess, here we go, “You broke my pencil.” “That’s because you didn’t return my eraser.” “I’m gonna talk to you, you are so mean, go away.” Could you guess which skill is this? Well this is a bomb-disposal skill which we call as ‘conflict resolving’. So conflicts are so common in our lives just like you saw one now and conflict is a serious argument or disagreement that you can have with someone over a matter. Now conflicts aren’t avoidable, are they? But resolving them is possible.
So this is another skill that is ignored in our school and that’s why the person you had a disagreement with in grade eight, almost became your enemy when you passed out from the school. Okay, well that’s happened with me though.
Now the best way to resolve conflict is first, ‘respond but never react’. So responding to the situation means you keep emotions in control and focus on the problem not the person. Let’s say your colleague, let’s say you found out that your colleague complained about your late coming to the boss. Now here is a conflict. You’re quite angry. So the first thing is respond to it by coming on time and don’t react by shouting on them. So that’s the difference.
Second you should let the other person know that you want to come to an agreement, so in this case you will talk to your colleague and resolve the matter before it escalates or before it increases.
Third, clearly and quietly communicate what you want from the situation. So here you could respectfully go to your colleague and tell them not to interfere in your personal decisions, fantastic.
3. Third Skill “Asking questions”:-
Now let’s guess the fourth skill, “Yes ma’am I know that answer, I will answer to this question.” “What do you ask me?” “I know the answer.” We often say that in school. Well I never asked too many questions because I didn’t know if the answers were right. Okay, so I think you must have got it now I’m talking about, ‘asking questions’. Yes a good communicator is not somebody who has all the answers, but someone who has good questions in order to keep the interaction going. So a great way to ask good questions is to ask questions that could lead to interesting answers. To do that you should keep your questions open-ended. By that I mean you should ask questions that cannot be answered yes, that cannot be answered with a simple yes or no. But questions that require a detailed answer and this will add spice to your conversations and keep your conversations going …
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